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Have you ever asked yourself this question :
” What will I be doing in one year? five years? ”
I have NO idea. I don’t want to know.
If you are like me you are constantly thinking about what will come next, what the plan for the future is, and what you are working towards achieving.
It gets exhausting, doesn’t it?
It almost takes a conscious effort to NOT think about that stuff all the time.
Don’t get me wrong, having a vision for your life that guides you is a wonderful thing, but when you are too busy thinking about what comes next to enjoy what is happening now, it can bog you down.
I found myself in that place. So caught up in what I was working towards and where I was going, that I couldn’t enjoy where I actually was.
How did I know I was in the place?
Apathy. Complete and total apathy.
I have always been someone who didn’t shy away from hard work. That has never scared me. Yet, I would decide on something I really wanted to do (a business idea, applying for a job) and then when I would think about it, it just sounded like too much effort, too much time, too much work.
That just isn’t me.
It caused me to really sit and listen to what my intuition (or “inner pilot light” as Lissa Rankin M.D. would call it) was telling me, or screaming at me rather.
I need to just be quiet, my mind at least. Getting quiet in this house with my two boys is virtually impossible, but a theoretical type of quiet…
Time for some space, white noise, silence, quiet.
Then, the rest will unfold.
If we allow ourselves some inner quiet, wont that allow our true path to reveal itself?
- What will it take? (amominspired.com)
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As I delve more into my own personal health journey, I am realizing how much it ISN’T about food.
I’ve got this stuff down.
Knowledge of what to eat – check.
Knowledge of what not to eat – check.
All about nutrients, phytonutrients, vitamins, and minerals – check.
What diet feels best on my body – check.
But what will it take to tackle the other stuff?
The emotional connection.
The unresolved feelings in my past.
The feeling that my body is never what I want it to be.
I am working through Lissa Rankin’s questions related to her amazing book Mind Over Medicine and this one really struck me the other day:
What within me am I holding back? What longs to be set free?
What will it take for you?
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Good Morning my friends and readers!
As I move farther into my nutrition education and just my personal exploration, I have found myself thinking about things that move beyond just the mechanics of what to eat and why.
I NEVER stop thinking… a curse sometimes.
Why do we do things that we know are not good for us?
I am thinking of this question in terms of food and nutrition, but really it could be about so many things!
This is what I know…
When I eat sugar, I feel like crap. Then after a couple of days, I start to explode with zits (which I completely hate, by the way…but who loves zits?).
I know this to be fact…
Yet I still choose to indulge. Maybe not everyday, but I do indulge.
My answer is simple, and very complex at the same time.
It is about so much more than just sugar.
And then there is the emotional piece, and that’s a biggie. Not just a biggie, but the BIGGEST.
There is something about sugary comfort foods, or the teaspoon of sugar in my morning cup of decaf Joe that just nurtures me and fills my soul (for the moment)…
It is the first thing I turn to after a hard day, a stressful time, a celebration… the first thing I want to reach for.
All the while, I know it is so not good for me… for more reasons that just the ugly zits.
Why do we do that? What is it about for you?
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Parenting is complex, to say the least.
As a parent, we want our kids to have everything. I think in some way, it feels like a measure of how we are doing.
I know as a mom, I want my kids to feel good and have the things they need, and want.
On the other hand, I want to instill in my children a sense of gratitude, work ethic and the understanding that you don’t just get things, you have to work for them.
So what do we do when our plans to instill hard work and gratitude backfire on us?
To step onto my soapbox a little ( I have been doing that a lot lately!), I really feel that as a society, we have lost sight of the fact that children need to earn the things that they have. We have gotten into the habit of just giving our children the things that they want without the expectation that they have to do anything for it.
I see children with all the latest “toys”, I mean BIG toys. Motorcycles, quads, bikes, trampolines, and toy rooms overflowing with more toys than they can even know what to do with.
My kids are no exception.
I too, have gotten caught up in wanting my children to have the things…
I have, however, tried to let find ways for them to earn the big things in hopes that I could teach them the lesson of hard work and gratitude.
Last night, I realized that our best-laid plan was a failure…
A year and a half ago, Brayden wanted golf clubs. That is not a small investment for a 6 year old.
We explained to him that there are things we do around the house because we belong to the family, and then there are additional things that he could do to earn quarters.
Once he earned $50 worth of quarters, we would pay the rest and buy the clubs.
He worked for 6 months to earn the quarters and finally got the clubs.
The next thing was a motorcycle. Brent had received a 50cc motorcycle from a family member and we let Brayden know that if he wanted it to be his, he would have to earn it.
Go Mom and Dad.
Then, when he earned his quarters, he decided he wanted legos instead. Ok.
Maddox jumped on board and decided he was going to earn the 50, since his brother changed his mind. And he is just about there now, 1 year later.
This all sounds good, I know.
But yesterday when Maddox was talking about wanting his own golf clubs, it all went downhill.
I suggested that Brayden sell Maddox his golf clubs (since he never uses them!). Maddox would have to earn them and we could work out a way for him to pay us and Brayden an amount for the clubs.
Still sounds reasonable right?
It all fell apart when Brayden said ” Yeah, Maddox, I will sell you mine and just go get a new set”.
Looking at it with a closer lens, I also noted that there are a lot of days when I would offer to allow the boys to earn quarters and their response is ” nah, I don’t want to earn any right now” .
So they aren’t really earning the quarters and doing the work because they want more than anything to have the golf clubs or the motorcycle. They are earning the quarters when they are in the mood, when it’s convenient, all the while knowing that they WILL get whatever they want eventually anyway.
This parenting stuff is so complicated!
The reality is this:
The boys would be absolutely happy just playing outside in the dirt, shooting hoops, or running around pretending to be pirates.
I have to remember to keep that in mind.
How do you instill a great work ethic and gratitude in your children?
- You can teach children the joy of gratitude, Projo (ritawatson.com)
- 8 Ways to NOT Spoil Your Kids (everydayfamily.com)
So often we look at others who are doing amazing things, being amazing people, living their dreams and think ” they totally deserve it, they have worked hard“.
To be honest ( too honest maybe…) sometimes I think the opposite, but that’s for a negative blog post and I don’t do negative… 🙂 tee hee.
Anywho. Moving on.
And then I think about myself and think “ I deserve it too“.
But do I really think that?
Sometimes I feel that if I really believed that I could do anything, be anything, have anything, I would.
Not to say by any means that I don’t have everything, everything that is important: two beautiful boys, an amazing husband, a supportive family, health, a roof over my head, food on my table, and the list goes on. I COMPLETELY get that.
But then there is that part of me that doesn’t feel finished.
The part of me that feels like I haven’t quite made it yet.
The part of me that feels that my potential is still to be realized…
What’s that all about?
Is it about not really believing that it could be me to do all those things ( whatever they are!)? I say I believe that…I think I feel I could do anything…
Do I really feel like I deserve it?
Why not you?
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About a month ago, one of my worst nightmares came true when Brayden said to me :
“Mom, I want to buy lunch at school”
I was kinda hoping that he would somehow not notice the processed pizzas,hamburgers, hot dogs and tater tots walking by on trays in the cafeteria as he was noshing on his almond butter sandwich and apple,carrot sauce…
dream on mom…
So then comes the big question:
What is a mom like me to do?
I agreed to let him buy his lunch once a week, in hopes that once he did it, the novelty would wear off.
That brings me to the big point.
Why are school lunches provided by the cafeteria so processed and unhealthy when all we talk about is the rising rate of childhood obesity and type 2 diabetes in our country?
My mom always sends me articles that she thinks I would enjoy online.
Last week, she sent me an article that was focused on the state of Colorado and what they are doing to combat these preventable diseases in our children ( see related npr article below).
Guess what they are doing?
You guessed it (or maybe you didn’t ?), an initiative to train cafeteria staff to go back to cooking from scratch in the schools.
Live Well Colorado is working to get the processed foods out of their schools’ cafeteria’s and educate children and families to make good nutritional choices.
Their website is so great and shows some amazing progress.
This is what we need across America.
I emailed Live Well Colorado to see if there are any other states or organizations bringing these types of initiatives to their states, (I wanted to jump onboard in Oregon!) and sadly, there are no other non-profits using this model…
I am so bummed.
So, I might have found my new mission…??? It takes a lot of money, but if Colorado can do it, can’t we?
What are your thoughts about school cafeteria lunches and what we can do about it?
- One Lunch Lady’s Cafeteria Conversion (npr.org)
- One Lunch Lady’s Cafeteria Conversion (wnyc.org)
- 5 Ways to Help Kids Get Interested in Healthy Eating (healthykidschallenge.wordpress.com)
Good Morning! Happy Tuesday!
If there is one thing about Summer, it is that there is NO routine (in my house at least)! Once we get in a groove, a new week hits and we are off again!
Sorry for not posting yesterday, the boys are both in camp this week and I am a serious mom taxi! Of course Maddox has camp in the morning, and Brayden in the afternoon, so no mommy time for me 🙂 Now that it’s Tuesday, I think I am in the groove for this week… so on to my question for today!
Even with everything I do to try to instill gratitude in my kids, Maddox still whines and complains about all the things that he wants that he doesn’t have.
We are not talking food, drink, clothing, shoes…. I am talking about golf clubs, motorcycles, etc…
Is this just the age? Or something more? How do I instill a sense of gratitude for the (many) things that he already has?
Is it unrealistic to expect a 4-year-old to get the concept?
I work really hard to always try to emphasize hard work. There are certain jobs that the boys do around the house just to be a participant in our family. They can earn quarters when they go above and beyond that.
When Brayden got his golf clubs, he did extra work around the house to earn 100 quarters (it took him 6 months) in order to get them. Maddox also has a chart where he does extra work around the house to earn quarters to work toward the things he wants.
Yet still, on days like yesterday, I feel like I have raised a very spoiled child who expects that he should get everything he wants. When I tell him we are not going to get the golf clubs ( for $100) he gets ridiculous…
What is this all about? What are your experiences with these things?