Deb Who?

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Photos by Rachel Neumann Photography and Diane Rucker

Deb Who??  Isn’t that the million dollar question?

I’m Debbie.  I am a girlie, pedicure and shopping lover, surrounded by boys!  I am a mother of two dirt-loving boys, Brayden who is 5, and Maddox who is 3, and wife to an amazing (also dirt loving) husband, Brent.  We even have a tough looking (but super sweet) American Bulldog Duke.

I have always had aspirations of wearing a power suit from Ann Taylor, being the woman in charge and holding a big job in corporate America.  When I was a child I remember wanting to be a corporate woman embellished with all the latest trends and fashion accessories.  Then, I met my husband and started thinking about being a mom.  My ideas and vision for myself shifted, as I know happens to many women, and I found myself then wanting to be a “mom with a masters degree”.

I wanted to get my education, complete a Masters degree to prove to myself and maybe others that I was intelligent and capable of my corporate dream, yet I wanted to stay home with my children and be the mom that got to work in the classroom, be on the PTO and “be there” for my kids.  So I got the degree (in clinical psychology believe it or not!), and although I don’t use it in a corporate setting I am doing “therapy” everyday.

When we started our family, I had to work.  I began an Event Coordination Business with my friend Ali that became wildly successful and had decided to put my degree to work and go back into the education field; I had my mind set that it was time to really jump into my career.

So when we found ourselves packing up the moving truck and heading to Oregon from California for my husband’s job, I gave up my successful business and my budding career for my family.  I was finally going to be able to fulfill my dream of becoming a mom with a master’s degree.  So here I am, living my dream and it is not as rosey and sweet as I thought; I feel incomplete somehow.

So why am I writing all this?  For the past year I have struggled with my purpose.  What is it?  What am I supposed to be doing?  I have always felt that I was put on this planet with a voice and with a purpose that I am going to influence a lot of people, help people, and make lives better.  The only problem is that I don’t know how.

How often do I get to read about the average mother who doesn’t overcome the extraordinary, survive a horrific trauma (thank goodness I don’t have that story to tell), or have some amazing creative DIY talent, but just lives every day trying to figure out how to raise healthy children, not let herself go and in the process find what she was put on this planet to do.

That’s what I am going to do!  Thank you Cindy; for inspiring me to find the extraordinary in the ordinary and realize that I do have a story to tell.

13 thoughts on “Deb Who?”

  1. fantastic!

  2. Debbie… thank you for stopping by my blog. It helped me to find your home here. Our life stories parallel in so many ways… except I’m much farther down the path now while looking for my ‘next’ purpose.

    As a mother-wife-daughter-woman you are influencing many… and the future, just by being you. And wlcome to Portland, I’m right across that big river.
    Blessings…. ellen

    • Ellen, thank you for the wonderful words. It means so much coming from someone who has been there 🙂 I am looking forward to continuing to gain inspiration from you and how wonderful that you are also here in this part of the world!

  3. Thanks for popping by my blog. It sounds like you and I have been contemplating the same things lately. I am a mom with a masters degree too. When I made the move to stay home, I was floored by how I felt when I “lost my identity”. I did not know how to introduce myself or what to say I did. I was never the “domestic” mom. So, I decided to document my life with all its imperfections …even though it is ordinary, I have found it is often humorous. So glad to find your blog.
    BTW, I lived in California most of my childhood (mostly in Orange County and Monterey since I was a Navy Brat), but also had a short stint in Seattle for middle school. I am a bit envious of your move to Portland though. Love that City! I would love to move back to the Pacific Northwest at some point.

    • When I saw your blog I felt like it was my story you were telling! I think there are so many of us out there trying to find the humor and purpose in this new “norm” (will it ever be normal??) Thank you so much for reading!

  4. I have received the Liebster Blog Award and would like to pass it on to you.

  5. This is great stuff. I’m going to share your blog on FB!

    • Thank you! I will check your blog out as well! Thank you for sharing my blog on your fb,that is wonderful 🙂 I see you are a friend and fan of Harriet? She is very near and dear to me!

  6. Yup, I’m friends with Harriet! Just love that girl. I enjoy your blog and had to share 🙂 hopefully more folks will check your blog out!! Great stuff.

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