This morning as we were rushing out the door to swimming lessons, I was staring at my keys hanging on the key hook ( literally…) asking the boys if they had seen MY keys (as if the keys on the hook weren’t mine… wow.).
This morning, I was an amazing mess…
So, today I may stir the pot a little, but I am just going to call it like I see it.
I cannot tell you how many times I have seen moms that are two things.
1. Absolutely Amazing.
2. Totally a mess.
I realize that some might take what I am about to say offensively, and I am sorry if I am about to put a mirror in front of you.
There is no reason why being a mom and taking good care of your children and family means that you also cannot take care of yourself.
I am in no way an expert on motherhood.
I too have had moments when I looked in the mirror- the grey hair showing because I hadn’t taken the time or wanted to spend the money to get it done, rolled out the door in the morning wearing my slippers on accident because I was too caught up in the kids, been too tired or wrecked to take a shower and the list goes on and on.
Sometimes I don’t even recognize myself.
I get it.
But I can’t help but think when I see those moms out there; maybe the mom running the elementary school, or the mom volunteering to take on every job for the sports team, or the mom that runs the entire show wherever she goes, that most of them look the same.
Exhausted and like they do not take care of themselves.
(Thank goodness for them, by the way.)
When did being a mom, an involved mom, mean that you don’t matter anymore?
It seems like I am talking about vanity. Some might criticize me and say that what you look like doesn’t matter.
Here is what I say to that:
You matter. Your health matters. How you look is a reflection of how you feel. When you are healthy, you look healthy.
Health is not just about physical, but it is emotional, mental, and just about everything wrapped up together in your one beautiful body.
When I see mom’s running like crazy looking like a mess (me this morning…), my guess is that on the outside AND the inside, they are.
Please moms, take care of yourself too. Take care of yourself first. We need to be vibrant and wonderful for ourselves and our families.
My goal is to take care of myself and take time for myself- please come along and join me.
For you, for your families, and for your kids.
Tell me what you think about all this. Do you agree?