I know you have been anxiously awaiting the conclusion to the “Drop Off” situation from yesterday right?? Well I am happy to conclude the story so you no longer have to be preoccupied with how I could have possibly dealt with the scenario… ( If you didn’t read yesterday- shame on you! Part one was a thriller!)
Here was my solution to the “drop off situation”: I did do the “drop off” (applause please…).
I pulled my car around that circle, told Brayden I loved him and to have a great day and sent him on his way through the front door to the school. Then, I parked in the nearest parking space, walked myself in the door to the lobby and spied on him! To me at the time, this was the best happy medium.
I was allowing him to feel capable, confident and independent, while still ensuring his safety.
It all went according to plan until Maddox kept asking “ mommy are we going to drop off Boo ( his nickname) and then park and go watch him from the lobby??” . Never underestimate a three-year old and his ability to foil the undercover mission.
I don’t think Brayden caught on, and after a week or so of spying, I did realize that Brayden was exactly right. Hence, lesson number two; He was capable and ready to take on this new level of independence. So now, I just drop him and go.
Why don’t we give ourselves permission to have a difficult time with transition when we are constantly doing this for our kids?
We have to give ourselves permission as parents to take our time with transitions too. It is funny how we are always thinking about making the transitions smooth and not too abrupt for our kids, but we don’t give ourselves the same consideration.
As part of learning to take care of myself as a mother, I am learning that it is ok if it takes me a little longer to get used to a new older version of my kids as long as I am always making sure to encourage them in their next steps towards independence.
The balancing act between encouraging them to move away from us while still keeping them close is a daily challenge.
Like a teeter totter we will go up and down, sometimes make mistakes or take a little longer to make the adjustment, but in the end we will hope to always come to a place where we are equal on both sides, and in a perfect world, at peace with letting our babies go out into the world and discover for themselves who they are meant to be.
Whew… made it through that challenge. On to the next!
What situations have you found yourself having a more difficult time transitioning than your family?